While some people hate spending time alone, for others it’s a desired state of being. Writer Anneli Rufus considers herself among these happy. Welcome to the homepage of Anneli Rufus. This page is about my book Party of One: the Loners’ Manifesto. Here we are, having this rendezvous without having . party of one THE LONERS’ MANIFESTO = anneli rufus” rs os for being, To Mattheco, for believing To DM, a friend fiom and beyond eS To EK, a friend from.

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That my disinclination to spend all of my free manifssto with others may not be the norm, but that it’s no less valid and that I’m certainly in good company.

Party of One: The Loners’ Manifesto by Anneli Rufus

Towns whose churches are built under the surface of the earth, whose hotels are carved out of ice, whose residents are waiting for spacecraft to land. Here, at last, is a book that refutes and rejects such frantic terms of socializing.

This word wants to be washed and shined. Sometimes just one fantastic someone is enough.

Social outcasts and loners, as she eloquently points out, are not the same thing at all. We simply spend our “social energy” when we’re among people, and recharge it by being alone. And I still am.

I know it didn’t reflect mine. Maifesto course, the rest of the world doesn’t understand. To paraphrase that Boston song, more than a feeling. But most are reasonable people who, though they may not entirely grasp the concept themselves, will respect an introvert’s desire for privacy and solitude.

Anneli Rufus is an award-winning American journalist and author. But we know being a loner isn’t about hating people. I picked up this book because, in the past, I have often identified myself with this group “loners” and so I thought this would be an interesting read.


When the mob gets too close, the truth is revealed. How much better if I had known from the start, if someone had said, This is what is different about you. The writing here, at times, reminds me of why I hate The Catcher in the Rye so bloody much.

But they tend to choose depth over breadth, and their friends need to understand when the loner needs to be alone. On the subject of friends, Rufus points out that, yes, loners have friends, some very good friends. My friend Elaine is one of seven children and she is the most lonerish loner I have ever met.

PARTY OF ONE: The Loners’ Manifesto

Confronted with an identical scenario, the extravert will deduce its meaning based on what can be seen and what is recognized as true. This would have made a fine essay, but there isn’t enough substance here for a book.

The Tarot’s Hermit card? Loners live among the mob, so the mob mistakes us for its own, presuming and assuming. They see me as pretty gregarious and comfortable in most social situations, even among total strangers.

Never noticed it before but it does seem every news report Every ‘loner’ has to have three copies of this book not in a Catcher in the Rye sorta way so the next time someone in your family or friend asks “why are you that way” you can just lend him this book.

Acknowledging “the normal bias of the extraverted attitude against the nature of the introvert,” Jung manifsto that, for the latter, “work goes slowly and with difficulty. She has a good understanding that loners are different. Such a simple concept. The word alone should not, for us, ring cold and hollow but hot.


I told a friend that and her response was “awww” as if she was sad for me. Feb 18, Alison Livingston rated it it was amazing.

One is (not) the loneliest number |

Most people who meet me in person have a hard time believing that I self-identify as a loner. As deep sea fish die in a shallow tank” Also, Anneli understands that the internet is the best thing evah! Of course the rest of the world doesn’t understand.

Manufesto, at last, is a book that refutes and rejects such frantic terms of socia Society consists of individuals moving as one.

One is (not) the loneliest number

And I loved nothing more than loner get on my bike, alone, and go exploring. I feel weird when I start maniffsto book and don’t finish it, even if I hate it. She seems to assert the anarchist perspective that culture and big cities are abominations and that loners are the most adaptive, but she makes the ludicrous assertion tha Rufus claims to be a celebrated author of numerous books, but this book is astonishing for its lack of any perception and marks her as an author to avoid.

Sure, I’ve met some of the type the book talks about: Ultimately, I believe, that all true readers are parties of one.